The Autumn Years of Your Life
Staying healthy, wealthy and wise
Watch the sunset but don’t let the art of masterful living set like the evening sun.
At this stage in your life, you are in a position to write down the important things that you have learned about life. Each and every one of your family is a wonderful gift to you and to all the world. Remember this always, especially when the cold winds of doubt and discouragement fall upon your life.
You were not afraid of anyone or of anything when it comes to learning to make your life journey of learning a reality. Continue to pursue your hopes and live your dreams no matter how difficult or “different” they may seem to others. Community is a key component in any happy, fulfilled life. Learning to appreciate your capacity for growth
Have the courage to live a life true to you as a wife/husband, mother/father, mother-in-law/father-in-law and grandmother/grandfather. Have the courage to live life on your terms and not live life on other people’s terms. It is easy to see how many people’s dreams have gone unfulfilled. Fulfil the dreams you made as a choice so that you do not regret not making that choice.
If you have dreams, it is very important for you to honour at least some of your dreams. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few of us realize we have until we no longer have it. So honour that dream before you regret your dream was unfulfilled!
Don’t work so hard. Over work need not take over your life. Stop fussing over little things that do not add value to a relaxed life of being present in the moment. You have spent most of your life being sensitive towards building up a career, a home, a family life.
When you spend most of your life at this stage working very hard at little things that do not matter you might overlook spending quality time with loved ones only to have great regrets not spending quality time with them. If only you can bring back time when you realize you have missed your grand children’s growing up years, your children’s youth and your partner’s companionship. Avoid over work now only so you do not have deep regrets spending so much of your life on the treadmill of non-existence.
Simplify your lifestyle and make conscious choices along the way. Create more space in your life and you can become happier and more open to new opportunities of travel, community work, networking, spending quality time with grandchildren or even sharing your niche, knowledge and wisdom. Grab those opportunities that come into your life. Go look out for them. Create space and opportunities more suited to your lifestyle of enjoying your autumn years. Don’t put off what you can do now. Don’t worry about things you can’t do. Do the things you can.
Have the courage to express your feelings. Do not suppress your feelings in order to keep peace with others. Do not settle for a mediocre existence. Have the courage to express your feelings about the quality of existing relationships. If there are grounds to improve relationships and more bonding, make a choice to work out reaching out so you do not live with regrets. Bitterness and resentment when carried over the years can become an illness but now don’t make it a thorn in your side. You cannot control the reactions of others, but you can manage your feelings of wanting a better relationship or better friendship. However, when you speak honestly, people may initially react. In the end, it raises the relationship you are working hard at improving to a whole new and healthier level. Become healthier and be at peace, don’t hold on to any unhealthy relationship. Be motivated and encourage others to make changes and turn that poor relationship into a better one. Either way, you win.
Stay in touch with your friends. Learn to realize and appreciate the full benefits of friendship. Don’t become so caught up in your own secluded life or chosen busy life, that you let golden friendships slip by now. At this stage, friendships when given the time and effort that they deserve will give you much joy. Enjoy the friends you have. Don’t let anyone that you value, let that friendship slip away. It is all comes down to how much you value love and relationships in the end.
Let yourself be happier. Happiness is a choice. Choose not to stay stuck in old patterns of thoughts and behaviour. Do your best to overcome sabotaging habits. Be happy again. The comfortable feeling of familiarity can easily overflow into your emotions, as well as your physical life. It is so easy to feel comfortable with stagnancy in your autumn years. But remember this: it can lead easily to unhappiness. Any false sense of security can make you fear any inevitable change.
Do not allow a fear of change make you pretend to yourself and to others that you are contented with your current state. Deep inside your inner feelings you hide a deep secret: your feelings are different. Do not pretend even to yourself about what you actually feel. If you feel happier laughing then it is a good idea to join a community college that teaches laughing classes to laugh your troubles away. Whatever you do: Do not let what others think of you stop you from feeling happy in your own way.
The kind of life you want is a choice when you have plenty of options. But now it is a choice of wisdom. It is YOUR life at this stage of autumn. Choose consciously, choose wisely and choose honestly. Choose happiness. Learn to appreciate that you still have the capacity to grow in the capacity to appreciate life – filled with happiness and laughter. So be wisely true to yourself, express your feelings freely, stay in touch with friends, let yourself be happier and above all don’t let unnecessary over worrying and over thinking take over what is left of your life.
Stay curious. Learning is a journey. It is not a destination.