Love & Relationships
Learn to have your cake and eat it too.
In ladies’ chart, it is common for you to assume your partner should be different, that your relationship should be different. It is hard to fathom why your significant other half is the way he is. Unless you understand your destiny chart from the point of view of you as a Day Master/Ruler of your destiny chart and the role your spouse element plays in your relationship/marriage palace you can hold on locked into periods of frustration or abandonment.
Sometimes it is revealed that there is hurt and loneliness and when you realistically open up to these feelings the more you can begin to accept your other half as he is. This can relax your relationship to allow fundamental honesty, caring and respect to take over and become honestly accepting of how both partners in wanting each other to be different lose the way in loving each other the way it is. When you turn towards the comfort of truth you start to recognize what is real and begin to accept it.
Accepting what is in your ladies’ chart does not mean passive realization but engaging bravely with the reality of your circumstance. You might not like the insightful information that is uncovered but you can hang on to the truth of the matter with compassionate self realization. Be present and rest in that presence. When that presence happens, your focus becomes more clear.
You will see beyond the reaction, the changing thoughts, the welling of emotions, and discover the refuge that destiny is Heaven’s way, that destiny cannot be changed but you can improve upon it. Your acceptance and reaction count for much. It is how you behold that experience – with wakeful honesty and openness or with hard feelings of resentment and injustice.
Facing and accepting the realities of your current situation is not easy. You can be deeply conditioned to try to hold on to whatever you hope will give you a sense of security and comfort, and to protect yourself from pain. When you feel you are abandoned emotionally it isn’t hard to see why you can hold on locked into periods of despondency in a relationship or deep partnership. In accepting what is real you can turn toward truth and face things as they really are.
The experience and understanding is up to you as the driver of your car named Destiny. Life is, at worst, nothing more than a fictional movie of how we want people to see us. Just go live your life, focus on your present reality, and ignore the daily grind and the boring stuff. The best thing you can do for yourself is to care for somebody else, love unconditionally. Trust me – you’ll be a lot happier.
Stay curious. Learning is a journey. It is not a destination.