Connecting With Your Child and Letting A World of Connection Happen
“Teach me and I learn. Show me and I remember.”
Having teachers increases your child’s awareness. Teachers should come in many forms and sizes, any age or personality. Let the many people your child meets to see them as teachers. Your child clearly needs to understand that each time your child gets ready to do something all obstacles and limitations are going to surface so it is your task to teach your child he/she can let go of them.
Having role models and mentors showing your child how things are done helps him/her to quickly identify where your child is stuck so that he/she can immediately change the results and forever learn the lesson. As parents, you are your child’s first teacher.
THE GOOD THE BAD AND THE UGLY OF EXPRESSION
As a parent, you pride yourself to be responsible and level-headed who is against dividing the family. Look at some of the strong personalities in the family and decide from whom your child will learn and what they say and do and you draw teachings for your child appropriately. Let your child hear other people’s responsible point of view.
If you think they need not be aggressive and that aggression can turn into extremism and that they are the ones whose passion, if wrongly channelled, will lead to, or encourage division and unrest in the family, it is best to watch their tone and their attitude and decide what and who your child can learn from.
LEARNING TO BE SENSITIVE TO OTHERS
Understand that your family is living in a community formed by a diverse group of people comprising of Muslims, Christians, Hindus, Atheists and Buddhists. There will be insensitive people who are relentless in pursuing their agenda. This is a lesson you will draw for your child to be sensitive to other religions and people with other beliefs in a secular society.
LEARNING TO HAVE A BALANCED POINT OF VIEW
When people who are open minded are often respected people who make well-informed points, while drawing somewhat logical analogies.. As a parent when you act responsibly and logically you are giving your child a learning lesson. You are not afraid of displaying a responsible balanced point of view and standing up to many forms of argument. By far the easiest way to teach your child a balanced point of view is to present well presented, thoughtful, sensible and logical explanation and utmost respect from others will be gained. In turn your child will learn to display true integrity, common sense and sensibility
LEARNING TO BE GRACIOUS AND HUMBLE
Teach your child that before he/she or anyone says something derogatory, just know that there are friends and families whose point of view will greatly differ from theirs. By saying something, your child or others are allowing people to judge character, level of intellect and take action against person/persons uttering derogatory remarks. It is the tone and the attitude that makes a difference between stating your point of view and being overly cocky, assertive and overly-imposing.
LEARNING TO HAVE INTEGRITY AND NOT SELF-CONTRADICT
If you do not to talk righteous for the sake of sounding intelligent, because it is not intelligent, your child will learn from that. If you believe that you are a good parent and do nothing then you are missing the opportunity to teach something. Believe that you exist for a reason and you are doing something. As a parent you appear really sensible, intelligent and dignified but don’t self contradict and expose yourself to mudslinging without much substantiation or expose your child to listen to hate messages. Teach your children to be dignified and “walk the talk” to be a wholesome human being not just within the family but in school and in the playground.
LEARNING NOT TO BE MALICIOUS
As a parent there are things you as a family unanimously do not agree to, that you actually condemn. Listening to unintelligent accusations will only incite more hate in the community as well as in the family which as a parent you do not wish for your child to grow up with. You are going to agree on some issues and disagree on others, even between two good friends and even between spouses. Your child will learn eventually how not to be malicious.
Stay curious. Learning is a journey. It is not a destination.